09/29/2024
The "let them" theory has reshaped how I think about control and relationships. You can’t force anyone to stay in your life or act a certain way. When someone decides to leave or things take a turn, the best thing you can do is let them. You’re in charge of your own actions and reactions, and that’s where your power lies—not in trying to control what others do.
I used to think I could keep people in my life by trying really hard, but in the end I always ended up embarassing myself. In reality, people will do what they want, and trying to hold onto someone who doesn't want you back is just draining. If someone wants to leave, you let them. Letting go is the better option for your mental.
This theory has changed a lot for me. No matter how much I wish and wish I could change someone’s mind or change the situation completely, the only thing I can control is how I react. I'm not going to lie, I'm still working on this. Controlling your emotions are hard. But it's important to recognize that I can choose how I want to respond. I always try to pick peace
This part can hurt the most, but it’s also the most freeing. When someone walks away, it’s easy to feel like you should’ve done something different or that you need to fix it. But holding on to people who don’t want to be in your life only holds you back. You're not being cold by letting them leave—you're protecting your energy and making room for people who genuinely want to be there.
Letting go of control has brought me a lot of struggle but a lot of clarity as well. When I stop trying to control others or force situations to go my way, I’m more open to what’s possible. The process helps me focus on my own journey instead of putting energy into things that aren’t meant for me. But when I stopped, I had to fight back the obsessive voice in my head. That’s when I realize I’m capable of handling anything, even if it doesn’t go as planned.
Listening to the "let them" theory brings peace and focus. You let go of the need to control others and create space for yourself. You can’t control everything, but you can control how you move and how you react.
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